Monday 28 May 2012

Holiday. Without children.

Aaaaarrrrgh!!!!

In three days time, I will be flying off on holiday.  Without any - ANY - of my children.  For the first time in about fifteen years.

I haven't given it much thought, but as the day grows nearer I'm starting to feel a bit anxious.  Not particularly about how they will be while I'm gone - they'll be on holiday with their dad... just the thought of not seeing them for ten days!  Ten days. 

They go to their dad's every weekend for 48 hours.  If they are back late or stay over for another night it feels weird.  I miss them loads.  I wonder what they are doing etc.  I can't imagine not seeing them for ten days. 

So, I have to stop worrying.  They will be fine.  I will be fine.  We will all have a fabulous time.  It will fly past and before we know it we will all be back to our usual lives as if this holiday never happened.

In the mean time I will be lying on here (the beach where we are staying):


Pottering around here (Alghero):


Eating the odd nibble here:

So, needless to say.  I think I'll cope. 

Wednesday 25 April 2012

Don't you miss bacon?

I've been vegetarian since I was twelve.  A proper vegetarian that doesn't eat anything that has previously had a heartbeat or eyes or anything like that.  (mainly I'm getting at - I don't eat *fish* OR meat).
I'm thirty-six now so that's 2/3 of my life as a veggie.  I think.  Anyway, twenty-four years. 

This is probably the single most questioned and attacked decision I've ever made.  The amount of people who act crazy when you say you are a veggie is bizarre.  I'm not an evangelical vegetarian.  I don't spout off about my reasons or question meat eaters or whatever.  I have four kids, I don't have time.

Honestly, the number of times I have actually said "I'm vegetarian" and someone has heard "you filthy bastard meat eater, I hope you burn in hell" is astonishing! 

Occasionally somebody is genuinely interested and asks questions and then I'm more than happy to talk about why I'm vegetarian.  But, it's my own decision.  I can't understand why people eat meat, but I can't understand lots of things and it doesn't bother me greatly.  In fact, I read a fantastic ethical/philosophical discussion about this in The Philosophy Files which is an intro to philosophical ideas for teenagers.  As an aside, it's really easy to read and simple to understand and entertaining on lots of things.  I liked it a lot.

The first 'file' is 'Should I eat meat' and the author basically puts forward then discusses all the arguments for and against eating meat.  It's really really interesting and is discussed way better than I could discuss it.  His conclusion after exploring all the arguments and looking at how general opinion is going is that probably in the next fifty years humans will stop wholesale consumption of meat and it will become a social taboo, with people being unable to comprehend why it was done. 

But anyway, I don't live in a vegetarian household (my partner and three out of four kids eat meat) and I'm not a vegetarian crazy.  Some people have the time and energy to check everywhere they eat.  I don't.  I know that sometimes my fried egg might have been cooked on a grill that had a sausage on it earlier.  It might not, but it might.  Some of the dives I eat in it's a certainty.  The main thing, for me, is that I do my best.  If it's not good enough for others I'm not bothered.  It's good enough for me.

So, in answer to the most common questions:
Do you miss bacon? No.
Do you miss steak? No
Do you miss sausages? No
(etc)
Do you think you are better than me? Probably yes.  But not because I'm a veggie and you're not.  Mainly because you seem like a bit of an asshole right now.
You look too fat to be a vegetarian, do you sneakily eat meat?  No.  I'm just one of those lucky vegetarians who can also be a little wobbly.
Why are you vegetarian?  Because there is no need to eat meat and be healthy and happy, I don't want to be directly responsible for any animal dying a traumatic death.
Animals aren't traumatised during slaughter so that's a stupid argument.  Are you stupid? No.  I've just done a tiny little bit of research.
Why don't you eat this bit of bacon?  Nobody would know.  Fuck off.


Friday 9 March 2012

Think I better say hello

Here's me - Shell

  • Thirty something mum of three boys
  • Married to my school sweetheart - he still gives me butterflies
  • Learned to drive aged 37, passed first time
  • Love Harry Potter
  • Love to watch films, read books and listen to music
  • Love the Formula 1
  • I love to make things
  • I'm a really shit housewife and I would love a cleaner!
  • When my Mum died I changed
  • I'm a VW widow
  • I love buttons
  • I have never been in an aeroplane
  • I don't drink much
  • I prefer savoury to sweet
  • I have four tattoos

Thursday 8 March 2012

All about Shazronnie


  • I like making stuff.
  • I like wine. Dry white. Especially Pinot Grigio. I only like very expensive red wine.
  • I also like Champagne. Perhaps I drink too much. 
  • I have three children; I think they are nice. James is a computer geek, Anthony is friends with everyone, Poppy is not a pink princess despite my best attempts at girlification.
  • I hate it when parents call their daughters princesses.
  • I have a BEd degree (2:1) in English. I never bothered getting a teaching job.
  • My favourite food is breakfast cereal. 
  • I have a husband. I love him lots, which is apparently quite unusual these days.
  • I have been on Blockbusters (1992) and Trash to Cash (2011) so I am practically a celebrity.
  • I like gin.
  • My Victoria sponge is awesome.
  • I am rubbish at housework. But too proud to employ a cleaner. I am deeply suspicious of women who wipe their skirting boards.
  • I watch tv for less than 1 hour a week. I facebook constantly.
  • My husband adores me. He just said so.
  • I have never met a woman with a flatter chest. I used to really want a boob job, but after breastfeeding for 5 years in total I think my tits are awesome. 
  • I am Welsh, but can only speak about 3 words of the language.

Wednesday 7 March 2012

Hello from BeckyFojo

Hello everyone,

Little intro from me.  I am...(in no particular order)...
  • in my mid 30's
  • mother to 4 children
  • avid reader
  • lazy writer
  • owner of various animals
  • bankrupt
  • vegetarian
  • user of cillit bang
  • in denial about using cillit bang
  • lie about using cillit bang
  • hater of cooking
  • lover of a beautiful and wonderful woman
  • a face painter
  • a terrible vegetable grower
  • failing the final module of my degree
  • a feminist
  • owner of a breadmaker (panasonic, naturally)
  • home educating
  • TV watcher
  • book group organiser
  • twice divorced (nearly)
  • someone who can only drive automatic cars
  • always longing to be by the seaside
  • someone who thinks that the perfect day involves playing with the children, coffee, reading, a walk by the sea, a good meal, a night out dancing and some amazing sex before falling asleep in the moonlight to the sound of crashing waves and a snoring wifey.
I think that's plenty, for now.

Monday 5 March 2012

Someone has to post something...

Err.. hello.
Nice to see you.
I suppose you'd like to know what this is all about. It's a team blog; a team of people posting about all sorts of things. I can't really tell you much more until it all starts happening!

There aren't really many rules; team members are free to post whatever they like, whenever they like. I think it would be a good idea for everyone to introduce themselves, and perhaps you can use your posting name as a "label" for each of your posts?

Well, what are we waiting for? Happy New Blog!